When we were young, we acted in accordance with the teachings of our parents or the school. When we grow up, we have to make judgments and choices on our own. However, in the face of many unknown consequences, many people are often unsure of their own ideas and hesitate. People who have experienced many setbacks may distrust themselves, and even hate themselves. Nevertheless, people will experience setbacks and confusion throughout their lives. Even if the current choices are not ideal, it does not mean that they will be the same in the future. Let us explore the suggestions on how to build self-confidence and self-love, so that you can live your life to the fullest!
1. Love yourself unconditionally
Perhaps you could only realize what "unconditional love" is when you are a parent, or you may have unconditional love for families, friends, and partners. Since it is okay for others, why not try to love yourself unconditionally? Even after making a mistake, don't over criticize yourself or be full of negative thoughts. When we can love ourselves unconditionally, we can also believe in ourselves unconditionally and build confidence.
2. Be yourself
When the reaction of others makes you feel uneasy, please remind yourself from time to time that it’s okay to be yourself. If you are always worried about what others think of you and show a different personality, you can actually feel it. It’s a good idea to start with someone you feel comfortable with, such as friends or family. If you feel uncomfortable because you are trying to be frank with yourself, please pay attention to your own feelings and continue to get along with these people until the insecurity disappears. The purpose is to practice accepting and adapting to being in the crowd and being your true self. Over time, you will be more confident of yourself from the interaction.
3. Listen to the inner voice
By getting to know yourself better, learning to get along with yourself can increase your self-confidence. You can also try practicing meditation. Try to be alone for 5-15 minutes a day quietly, paying attention to your breathing. If any self-criticism arises, try to admit and accept it, and then let it go.
4. Know your strengths
Everyone has something they are good at, so you must be aware of your own strengths and weaknesses. Doing more things you are good at can also increase your self-confidence, but if you are not sure what you are good at, ask people close to you and start to spend more time doing these things!
5. Stop comparing yourself to others
We’re socialised to be competitive, so comparing ourselves to others is natural. But it can be dangerous. Rather, focus on yourself and your journey. The shift of energy, alone, will set you free and let you blossom.
6. Don’t be afraid to let go of toxic people
If there’s someone bringing toxicity into your life, it might mean you need to stay away from them. Be brave. It’s liberating and important, even though it may be painful.
Remember: Protect your energy. It’s not rude or wrong to remove yourself from situations or the company of people who are draining you.
7. Set reasonable goals
Setting goals is a good thing, because it motivates us to work harder. But goals that are too difficult to be reached may lead to self doubt because of failure. Try to subdivide the final goal into many small goals and practice them one by one in stages. This will be easier and will increase confidence.
When you truly love yourself, and connect with the source of love and fulfilment within, you feel a sense of inner peace. As you connect deeply to yourself, you are much less afraid of losing yourself or losing your lover. Be patient with yourself. Self-love may not happen overnight. But with time, it will settle itself into your heart.